This past weekend Joel and I were so blessed to learn in Cincinnati at the Midwest Homeschool Convention
We were so excited to go and very unsure of what to expect…plus I was leaving Sullivan for the first time and nervous how he would do and how my mom and our babysitter, Emma, would do back at home!
Of course both kids did awesome, slept like champs, ate like grown men, and were loved on by two of their favorite ladies 🙂
While there is much I could say about our time there, I am going to do a few short posts about the speakers we sat under and the quotes, ideas, and teaching we received!
This is just going to be bullet-point form…hope you can follow!
This first one is about John Rosemond, a psychologist and author (find his stuff on Amazon here)
His first talk we went to was titled: The Secret to Successful Discipline (the secret will be revealed at the end of the post!)
When considering different parenting/discipline strategies, ask yourself: “Is this concept validated in Scripture?”
Humility vs. self-esteem: people w/high self esteem have low regard for others – they want to be paid attention to and want to be served. So is high self-esteem, which our culture values, something that scripture values?
The more attention you pay a child, the less they pay to you. It is our job to each children by the age of 3 that their primary job is to pay attention to the parent.
Anxiety causes the mom to micromanage. Take care of the big things and let the little things take care of themselves.
Why do we have problems with our children? Because they’re human beings. The only perfect parent created 2 children and they disobeyed the first command given…
As long as we think that problems are emanating from our children we’re not going to solve the problem…
Don’t want arguements? Don’t explain yourself.
1. Always talk to a child from an upright position
2. Use the fewest words possible
3. Never give explanations
4. Say “because I said so”
We are mistakenly looking for solutions – which is a fault of improper thinking – the secret to successful discipline is PROPER THINKING
His second talk we attended was titled: Parenting with Love and Leadership
The modern mom thinks of herself as a single mom and parenting has become bad for the mental health of women
In the 1950s women could be referred to as either a ‘housewife’ or a ‘working wife’
In today’s culture they are referred to as a ‘stay-at-home mom’ or a ‘working mom’
OVERTHINKING prevents us from hearing the soft, still voice of God. Parenting hasn’t become complicated becasue times have changed – it’s because thinking has changed
We can see a character problem developing, yet if we fix it for them we deprive them of an important life lesson
In scripture, children are giving 2 very straight-forward commands: Honor your father and mother & Obey your parents. We are to be God’s substitutes to His children.
Why are we letting our children be in control of what they need?! They only know what they want…They don’t know what reality is in their own life – but we do!
It is unfair to teach a child as if all of life’s problems can be solved
The truth is not positive or negative…it’s THE TRUTH
How do you provide discipleship in any situation? EFFECTIVE LEADERSHIP. A human being’s natural response to effective leadership is submission. Be clear, concise, concrete, and direct. Consequences are Plan B. All you can do is keep doing the right thing even though it isn’t working. Stop searching for the right consequence that produces the right behavior.
1. Act like you know what you’re doing
2. Act like you know why you’re doing it
3. Act like you know what you want
4. Act like you know you’re going to get it
Find more from him at Rosemond.com
What do you think?!