Monthly Archives: April 2013

Hands and Feet

Do you love this song on the radio right now?!

Kings and Queens by Audio Adrenaline

Head over and watch/listen to it

Recently I heard that the song was written for the displaced orphans in Haiti after the Earthquake

And that Audio Adrenaline has begun a ministry called Hands and Feet

“The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’”

-Matthew 25:40

Jump over to the ministry’s website and learn more!

Motherhood: Servant vs. Martyr

An exerpt from Jen Hatmaker’s: Out of the Spin Cycle Devotional

She is explaining how she chose to be a stay-at-home mom, but with the wrong idea of what it would look like:

“But when I took that as my identity, I developed a sense of entitlement and did a lot of waiting around for credit.  I held the emotional position that I was doing everyone a favor.  This top-down perspective tainted everything, becasue if I wasn’t perfectly appreciated, adequately recognized, or verbally praised (and what mom is?), then I became the wounded martyr who was always disgruntled.”

“If there is a more thankless, unglamorous job than motherhood, I haven’t seen it.  I know you get it, girls.  Something about being covered in other people’s urine and vomit while scrubbing toilet’s and hearing your precious cherub say ‘NO!’ to you twelve hundred times a day makes moms bat-poop crazy sometimes.  On super bad days, you might even say, ‘Is this really my life?'”

“When I choose servant instead of martyr, my children enjoy the security that they are welcomed in our home.  They are not a thorn in my flesh, cutting into my personal time.  They aren’t a nuisance, making me sigh with irritation all day.  They are welcomed members of this family, loved and purposed.  And when my children are welcomed, I have opened the very doors of heaven and invited God himself into the laughter, chaos, and life of our home.  Now that is greatness.”

First world problems

I don’t know why this is on my mind today…but I wanted to share

In my small group at Mom Life (a local MOPS-type group) our mentor challenged us on our ‘first world’ thinking last semester

Some examples go like this:

My dishwasher is broke

I don’t have gas in my lawnmower

Our kids may have to share a bedroom

We can’t decide where to go out to eat

I ran out of hangers for all my clothes in my closet

Our internet is down

My cell phone died and I don’t have my charger with me

My toilet needs to be cleaned

 

Lately we’ve been trying to change the way we pray, too.

Instead of asking, “God, will you bless this situation?”

We’re asking, “God, reveal to us the blessing in this situation.”

 

Trying Deciding to move the focus of our thoughts, decisions, time management, and possessions (and so much more) OFF of us and ONTO how God has intended them to be used for HIS glory is H.A.R.D.

And the fact that it is so hard is:

Pathetic,

Embarrassing,

and an excuse we use to continue sinning

 

God, we thank you for water to be able to wash the dishes that we use to eat on the abundance of food that is available to us.  Continue giving us opportunities to invite friends, neighbors, and even enemies into our YOUR home so that You can be glorified through shared meals, prayer for one another, fellowship, and accountability.  Use our thoughts and words to magnify You, and not us.  Get me out of your way.

Prayers from Mylin

At breakfast last week our prayer went like this:

Mylin: Help for our family and our friends

Me: It’s ‘thank you’

Mylin: Thank you for our family and our friends.  And for Emerald.  Is his (pointing to our female dog) name Emerald?

Me: Yes

Mylin: And for Emerald to poop outside and I poop in the potty last weekend when I was born in a manger.  Like baby Jesus. We love you God. Amen.

🙂

What Darwin Didn’t Know (Homeschool Recap #4)

Guest blog by Joel:

Having a degree in the field of science (Mechanical Engineering), I have a particular interest in the aspects of Creationism and other topics which, as a society, we continue to try to line up with our scientific observations. Part of this is related to how my brain works, constantly trying to align information in a logical and provable manner. The other part of it is that I have friends and co-workers that have similar scientific minds, so I feel that I am in a position of evangelism for the types of people that are at war with the concept of believing in something that they can’t fully prove. I don’t have a quiver full of Creationist Apologetics, but I am endeavoring to put more of a focus on this topic. In following with Rachel’s format for the Convention summary, here is my bulletpoint list of things that I found interesting and thought provoking. Also, if you’re not a nerd like me and you see this long list, don’t hesitate to just skim the list to the summary at the bottom. 🙂

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Basics about Charles Darwin – most of his work was in the mid-1800s, spent 5 years on the HMS Beagle as a “companion” for the captain, proposed that all species descended over time from common ancestors, proposed that this branching patter of evolution resulted in natural selection.

-Sedgwick and Lyell were 2 of his closest mentors, influences, and foundations for the beginning of his research. Interestingly, Sedgwick wrote letters to Darwin which expressed his disdain and embarassment for Darwin’s work and Lyell’s foundational theories which Darwin started from (such as believing that the continents rise and fall over time) have since been proven false.

-Darwin was a great writer and storyteller, which may have more to do with the staying power of his work than the actual credibility of his work

-Darwin had zero knowledge of concepts such as plate tectonics, the ice age, or sedimentation

-Experimentation shows that when there is flowing water, vertical layers are formed. So through this horizontal movement and different materials of varying size, density, etc, we can create vertical layers. We can also look at a very recent eruption of Mount St. Helens and see the many vertical layers. The common misconception is that the many layers in our soil is evidence of millions of years, and that as you go down you go further and further into the history of the earth. But a violent horizontal flow of water with different materials in it can result in many distinct layers. In fact, the Mount St Helens eruption activity over a few years in the 1980s resulted in what appears to be a few million years worth of sedimentary layers, if you follow the standard methods of calculation.

-Fossil Jellyfish. Outside of an event such as The Flood (extreme pressure, very quickly for preservation), how else could a gooey animal fossilize? And why are these fossils, which are supposedly millions and millions of years old, nearly identical to current species of jellyfish?

-Both evolution and creation share  a very large portion of their identity, biology. The difference is the philosphical portion…evolution uses naturalism and creation uses theism.

-Darwin assumed that the cell was basically a “bag of salts”, so it was easier for him to imagine an amorphous change of shape, color, etc. But we now know that the cell is a complex, highly-engineered machine.

-For example, looking at a simple protein of a simple organism like a fruit fly…there are thousands of specific links in that protein…and changing one single link would cause the fruit fly to cease to be a fruit fly.

-We assume that we’ve got a good handle on something as simple as the different species of animal and plant life…but in reality, the concept of “species” is very complex. For example, why do we differentiate between so many different dog species? They can interbreed and create new species or hybrids. Really, a dog is one “kind” of animal. We can see that through very few or even a single generation, we can drastically change the characteristic of the offspring. So by some contemporary definitions of a species…new species can form, merge or change within a very short period of time. But Darwin’s theory assumes a very gradual change over millions and millions of years…

-Darwin gets credit for the invention of evolution, even though other men made similar conculsions years before…but because of the class system of the Victorian society, those lower class men did not get credit for their work.

-Fossils that were identified as identical in every way except that they were discovered in different layers are considered different species. Why?

-Darwin’s evolution was centered around the tree of life with a central root…that has since been falsified, as we can trace many animals back to a single ancestor of the same “kind”. For example, we can trace back to the genesis of dogs and the genesis of cats, but we don’t see any overlap or common ancestry between them.

-The biggest, fastest, strongest survive? Sometimes it’s just the organisms that have the most offspring.

-Darwin made some great observations, but then he attempted to extrapolate that to infinity, sometimes by using false assumptions and theory…why do we still continue to hold it up as a true doctrine that has stood the test of time? It has not!

-Modern scientific theory actually supports the opposite of what Darwin said…genetics say that organisms are not expanding, but rather going extinct due to mutation. We’ve seen that some strains of influenza have mutated and die out over a relatively short period of time, under 100 years.

-Preconceptions! We know that Darwin went into his studies looking for a certain answer. He did not objectively analyze the data, but rather gathered anything he could find that could potentially support what he set out to prove. This is not consistent with scientific principles.

-It seems clear that Darwin’s most famous book, Descent of Men, is a very inflammatory and terribly false book. Those that support his claims and pick and choose things from his research and ignore all of the other pure drivel is asinine.

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SUMMARY

Well, did anybody survive that list? Some of those points might not make sense without further research and explanation. But the biggest point that I took away from this speaker was that we really really need to be careful to evaluate what we think we know, especially when it comes to “common knowledge”. Just because you heard it mentioned on tv or your mom or grandpa say it like it’s fact, doesn’t mean that it is truth! It is critical that we first start with Scripture for the most complete and accurate list of truths.

Secondly, consider the source. If you’re reading darwin.com (I made that website up) for example, the author(s) is probably likely to be a fan of Darwin and there is the potential for distorting the truth or leaving out key points that don’t support their agenda.

And lastly, really take at look at the foundations for your beliefs, even beyond Scripture. For example, you might be having a conversation about when our country declared its independence. It would be pretty easy to start with the date of July 4th, we all know that’s Independence Day, right? Well if you look a little more closely you’ll see that the Declaration of Independence was approved on July 2, 1776. So July 4th must be when it was signed or submitted or something, right? Well, kind of. It’s just not that simple. Not all of the men that signed the document were present at the time. One guy was not present and did not sign until November. Congress didn’t sign until August 2nd. That’s enough nerdiness, you get my point. Wives’ tales are a common example of assumed truths that should also be evaluated. You will not get warts from touching a toad, gum will not stay in your stomach for 7 years if you swallow it, being exposed to cold weather or having wet hair in the cold will not cause you to get sick, etc. Look it up!

Well, this will probably be the last time Rachel asks me to be a guest blogger. Maybe you can help me out by commenting that you got something out of reading this…even if it is just thinking about what kinds of things that you think you know that might really just be assumptions or misnomers.

I’ll try to be consistent with Rachel’s blog and ask:

What perceived “truths” have you been surprised to learn were not true?

Homeschool Convention Recap #3

Did you miss the first and second recaps from the Midwest Homeschool Conference?

Here’s the third (at least 1 more to come – a guest post by my favorite person)

Joel and I were so privileged to sit in a session by Kirk Martin (Calm Parenting)- someone who’s sessions sounded interesting but were SO HIGHLY recommended to us by some other gals from our community homeschool group, that we just had to give in and check him out.  Boy, were we glad we did!

His humor certainly keeps you engaged and laughing both at his story and our own reflection in them

But his heart for God and his children to be raised up in Him, at the expense of himself (meaning the daily rememberance to die to self – especially as a parent) is what won us over to be a fan.  We will certainly be seeing him again in the future any chance we get!

The title of his topic was: Stop Defiance, Disrespect, & Meltdowns

Don’t give them control – but give them ownership (I can’t remember the story behind this line…but the concept is one I want to remember!)

Humble yourself as the parent – and your child will become humble and contrite and have a heart change

Is what they hear different than what I mean?

God is very comfortable with imperfection – WE are not

When I control myself I get clarity

You can’t talk your kid out of being anxious

They’re not being disobedient/defiant – they are exploring (again, I forget the context, but important to keep in mind in ALL stages of kids growth…)

Give direction: Clear. Firm. Direct.  Then remove yourself – leaving them with figuring out how to deal with it

First time obedience vs. immediate obedience (there’s a difference!)

Those who are forgiven much LOVE much

I don’t need you (the child) to respect me, I have self-respect…I need you to respect me for your own good.  If you are disrespectful, you are not ready for this much freedom

TANTRUMS are manipulative

MELTDOWNS are emotional

Motion changes Emotion: diffuse the situaion by meeting your child in a different place and sitting side-by-side to discuss the emotional outburst they had.  Try snacking together to relieve some tension and to build a memory of time where Dad would get the salsa, I’d get the chips and we’d meet on the deck to talk it through

Model it – they’re looking for a leader and they will follow

 

Thoughts? Feedback?

 

Baby boy is becoming little man

Our sweet littl man is turning into such a big boy!

At 10 months old he is getting so active crawling around and pulling himself up on everything!  His drool is a spout that cannot be turned off, but his huge sweet smile offsets the mess 🙂

It’s unbelievable that he keeps getting sweeter every day – we are so thankful for our son, Sully!

I’ve captured some of his favorite things to do this Spring – many (if not all) of them involving his sister’s girly-pink toys 🙂

April showers 065 April showers 066First time sitting at the tea party by himself

April showers 064Playing with the hula hoop on the deck in the intense humidity last week!

April showers 063Yay family bike rides! (featuring his FAVORITE toy – the pink butterfly wand-rattle)

April showers 009Pantsless Mylin is mimicking Daddy with her babydoll, “Rudy”

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You will commonly find him with any of these three situations going on…1) crawling around with the pretend cleaning supplies, 2) playing with the magnadoodle board, 3) missing a sock. April showers 016We play on the stairs A LOT during the day – throwing a ‘jingle ball’ up and down, sitting and reading together, or Mylin trying to teach Sully how to climb all the way up 🙂 (Thanks, Deacon, for that new trick!)

April showers 058We just discovered how much Sully LOVES the baby swing.  When Mylin was his age and even up until this summer we could barely get her to sit in there through 4 verses of ‘Old McDonald,’ but this little man contentedly sat (with the pink butterfly wand-rattle…) for 45 minutes before I was finally bored and got him out!  April showers 060The tongue sticking out helps his ability to climb and stand 🙂